5. Where do you meet?
Not so many of us have been conscious about the fact that location determines allocation. If you'll attract genuine love, then where you firstly meet & your place of continuos meeting is an important factor.
I really don't want to stress this much cos I believe you all understand what I'm saying but don't get to carried away, that you met someone in the church might not necessarily mean the person is genuine but such it's better than someone you met at night club.
More than the place where you first met because there are countless reasons why someone may be in a not too good location and that's quite understandable but your venue of subsequent meeting is quite important.
If you're meeting in awkward place with nothing tangible about future you're discussing together, all is about entertainment, gisting and celebration all through, forget it the love is not genuine because loving someone is tantamount to loving oneself, the person should always be concerned about your overall wellbeing, future goals & ambitions, career development first before all those frivolities.
6. When are you going to the altar?
This might sound awkward but this is the easiest way to attract genuine love.
Ask me why?
Reason been that "I love you,lets be in a relationship" is quite simple and the cheapest way of expressing love all over the world.
Marriage is a commitment and you can't afford to promise someone marriage without knowing your onions.
So ask the person, when are we getting married, ask him/her questions that shows how serious you are about it. Critically examine the response you're given, it doesn't mean the marriage should be tomorrow but there should be an affirmative answer that'll point to you that he/she actually meant business in the relationship and you're both on the same page.
Someone who always change topic or get annoyed anytime you talk about marriage is not really into you (get me right & don't misinterpret, I'm only particulate about the genuineness of the response not that you should get married out of desperation) and that should tell you the love you're attracting or have attracted is not genuine.
7. Why do you love this person?
At this juncture, I'll like everyone following me tonight who's in relationship and he/she is confident about it to tell me ONE thing he/she loves about his/her partner.
As good as all your answers are, I'm afraid to tell you all that you've not started loving the person at all or you're not loving your partner the right way..
Could you tell me, if that thing you love about your partner is no more there, would you still love him/her? (That's rhetorical question)
Genuine love doesn't have a reason. Simply put. You don't love someone because of anything about them.
I need us to know that change is an inevitable part of human endeavor and until our conviction of love to another person is not subjected to infallible things, we're not close to the starting point.
Beauty will fade, figure 6 will go, money might go, a tall handsome man might end up on wheelchair, would you still love him/her in the middle of all this change.
I challenge you to love above the person. Anytime I think about God's love and how he literally slaughtered Jesus for us, and this is the same we're expected to love our partners, myself I'm always afraid but I have the conviction that it's possible cos it is not by power nor might but by SPIRIT.
8. Who is this person?
Don't get it twisted, not everyone that claims to love you has the capability to actually Love You. Though the person might be sincere but that doesn't mean the love is genuine.
Apologies to people who have other religious beliefs aside from Christianity. If you are a Christian & someone from another religion is claiming to love you, it can't just be genuine, reason been that what love means to you according to your own religious beliefs will be different to what it means to be in another religion, it might have some numerous similarities in definition but a minor difference in application is a catastrophe.
So if someone will ever claim to love you genuinely, it'll be that first and most importantly, you both have the same religious belief, the person acknowledge God as the final authority on all matters; once you mention God, he/she submit, the person has a mentor who he/she respect so much & can give him/her instructions to follow without refusal.
May I tell you that there's an estimated 1000 persons on earth that loves you and only 100 of that number comes from your family and another 100 from persons of the same gender with you. So there other 800 individuals lurking around somewhere in the world that loves you but shockingly enough only ONE is meant for you.
If you have blindly love someone all because the person says I love you then you're most likely not to meet the person that you're meant to be with.
Other pointers to check out for:
A. Actions over word
1 John 3 vs 18
Dear children, let us not love with words or tongues but with actions and in truth.
Don't be fooled, words are cheap, action is real thing. Anyone who lies to you doesn't love you. It's as simple as that. Don't be blinded, these are not my words or head knowledge but of the bible, so you really want to watch out for someone who love you with action and truthfully.
B. Peace
1John 4 vs 18
There's no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.
Does that sink into your head? all of you who are always agitated anytime you want to speak with your partner or you're afraid to talk to him/her for any reason, the scripture says your love is not genuine.
Any kind of relationship that has your peace threatened is not meant for you. Shikena. Peace is an indication of genuine perfect love.
C. Truth
2 John 1 vs 1
To the chosen lady and her children, whom I love in the truth--and not I only, but also all who know the truth.
This is an emphasis of the latter part of 1 John 3 vs 18. Anywhere Genuine love is, truth always follow. Let no man deceive you after hearing all this biblical truths about love. I reiterate, anyone who lie to you, the first time, second time before the third time open this scripture to him/her (truth is a testimony of love) if the lie pop up the third time, just forget about it.
D. Correction
Revelation 3 vs 19
Those whom I love I rebuke and discipline. So be earnest, and repent.
If you're with someone who doesn't talk to you about your weaknesses and help you to overcome your not too good habits. I'm afraid you've to reconsider. Correction in love is quite important to genuine love. Trust me until you're with someone who can look into your face and point out your errors to you & someone you can freely tell him/her of any attrocities he/she committed, you've not started anything close to genuine love.
Finally
1 Corinthians 2:14
The man without the Spirit doesn't accept the things that come from the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him, and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually discerned.
Just as I have told you from the start that this love is a spiritual thing, only those who are Spiritual in God can know the height, dept, width, breadth & length of genuine love.
May I invite you to the congregation of daughters and sons of God where God himself revealed things to us by his own Spirit.
You need Jesus Christ to save you from eternal damnation through the platform of salvation which is the only way to everlasting life by accepting JESUS CHRIST as your Lord and personal savior believing truly in your heart his birth, death & resurrection.
It doesn't matter you've been going to church for years or you've another religious beliefs, this is the only way to save your soul from eternal death after death. (For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16).
Please dear friend, this is another opportunity for you to have your name written in the book of Life by the blood of the lamb, don't hesitate to make it right with your maker.
Only for you to confess your sin and promise him not to go back again as He helps you, accept him as your Lord and personal savior and ask him to come into your life as a king to rule your heart.
Simple but powerful thing you've done by saying those things: I pray with you that God will forgive your sins, wash you away from all it's venom, give you his Own Spirit and make you reign with him in paradise in Jesus name, amen.
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