Simply put, frustration is any kind of event that goes beyond your control and you're literally sick of it. Like you're really annoyed about something and you are about giving up on it.....
.thinking about that event or action makes you so angered and so pissed off. Be sure to know that accumulated frustration leads to depression and it could get worst leading to suicide.
So how do you outsmart this canker when you're in a relationship, of course there are many shortcomings in a relationship that leads to frustration but I bet you once it all sum up to this phrase "frustration" then these five tips we go a long way in outsmarting it if followed religiously.
Note: these tips is best suited for partners whose relationship is most likely leading to marriage and for those who are ready to committing to each other.
Choose to believe that there is a superior being whose ingenuity covers the whole earth "GOD", talk to Him freely about your frustration in prayers as a you will discuss with your own father when you need school fees not as a Spirit who always wanted to scold you for every shortcomings. He listens and He would melt away your frustration in no time.
1. Love your Partner
Of course, love is the basis of any mutual relationship and it is the sustainer of it. If you really want to be factual and definitive about your relationship you must be sure you love your partner passionately, emotionally and romantically. The reason for this love of a thing is that "love they say, covers all sin", what will bring about frustration in any relationship is basically due to a recurring error from a partner or probably friends perception about the overall conducts of your partner which is negative, be that as it may the saying " love is blind" will come into play, though love is not necessarily blind but love closes eye against the faults of others and never reduces because of a partner negative actions but rather look for ways to help a negative vibe becomes positive. So when you love your partner you're a step ahead of getting their errors on your conscious mind, once you see it, you notify them, they plead forgiveness, you continue your relationship as if nothing happened and you'd happy after.
2. Love Right
You'd be wondering, can one love wrongly, I say yes. How is that possible? When the reasons for loving your partner is because they have good looks, nice cars, good outfit, figure six shape, fair/dark in complexion, straight legs, walk in a composed manner and the likes, my dear you're loving wrongly, does it mean those yardsticks are not relevant? Hell no, yes they are but they should not be pointer to loving a person because on the long run when a slight change occurs in these aesthetic appearance your love automatically diminishes and you will agree with me those things are definitely subject to change. So here is my advice, love your partner because of something unique about them let's say their goal, vision, ambition, godliness, passion, orientation, perception and stuffs like that, though it's difficult to evaluate a partner based on these requirements but I bet you if you are rigorous in searching these uniqueness out in your partner and you're able to lay your hands on one that actually interests you, you naturally fall in love with this aspect of them and the good news about these traits is that they are mostly inborn characteristics. Let me Frank with you, it's not easy to find out these traits especially when your partner has not discovered it for themselves but it's worth all the sacrifice.
You must also be careful here, when you discover that the values and purpose of your supposed partner doesn't fit into what you wanted for yourself, the best way is to discuss with your partner and find a common ground, you surely do not want to be with someone whose future focus doesn't fit in for you.
So I say, love your partner for their purpose and never for aesthetic appearances.
3. Set Clear Goals.
Be sure what your relationship is leading to, are you guys just catching fun with each other or just killing boredom together or is it a casual dating stuff or you're bent or making out something serious from the relationship. The type of relationship you're will determine your level of frustration and of course different approaches will be required. If you're in any kind of relationship that's not leading to marriage according to your own definition or probably on the consensus you agreed with your partner, then any form of frustration should be handled with levity a kind of feeling like " who cares", "is just for a time", I'm sure you understand that feeling. Its not worth it getting frustrated out of an unserious relationship.
But once you have written the vision and make it plain, that this relationship you both want to make something out of it, then the best approach to killing frustration is to brace up your mind that no matter what comes your way " you relationship must work out" and it must be mutual, once both of you have this orientation then you begin to look for ways to avoid any event that will lead to frustration from both ends.
4. Talk About Everything.
Now that you love in the right manner and you're certain you are making out something serious about your relationship, then the next thing for you to outsmart frustration is to talk about every single thing that you are not comfortable about together and look for ways to get it solved.
There is no perfect relationship anywhere but it is possible to make your own relationship the best it can be through sacrifice without compromise. When you have a feeling something is not right, talk about it, when you're not sure about a thing, talk about it. Don't assume or guess about anything, ask for clarification about everything and be sure you have the right information. If your partner is doing something you're not comfortable about or a friend gives you an information about your partner talk to them about it, when you're on top of a situation frustration can never set it.
Communication in relationship is an antidote of frustration.
5. Correct in Love.
Definitely, there would be moments when you really need to effect a change in your partner but as much as you want the change with eagerness as if it should just happen immediately, respect your partner opinions too and correct them in love. Never be judgemental or make them have a feeling that there is no much to them than the bad you want to correct, doing that will only harden their heart and you never get the result you so much wish thereby opening doors for frustration to set in. Some years back, I prefer sagging my trousers though it's kind of decent as I have a flat buttock but I can't remember the number of the strokes I received from my teachers but yet I won't yield to correction, then this girlfriend of mine then did the magic strokes of cane could not done by simply correcting that attitude with warmth and affection. When you correct in love, the result might tarry but it will surely come to pass and then it a win win for you and your partner.
Frustration annoys, avoid it.
Depression kills, never think it.
There's more to life, find it.
Happiness is personal, enjoy it.
Suicide is never an option.
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