Men love career woman
To start with, career is defined by Oxford Dictionary to mean "the series of jobs that a person has in a particular area of work, usually involving more responsibility as time passes."
It could have been perfect for any man to love a career woman if not for the latter part of the definition that says it usually involves more responsibility as time passes. This does not mean men loves ladies who are idle or who lazy around but as much as they resent the latter, they also don't like women who are overly ambitious with their work at the detriment of taking care of them, the children and family as a whole. So, the actual fact here is that a balance should be maintained between the two, it's good for a woman to be hardworking no doubt, but when your work enjoys your attention more than your family, then it's prone to questioning.
Working around the clock is more masculine inclined but at that, a whole lot of married women complained bitterly when there are husbands go on business trip more often or give attention to their work at the detriment of the family affairs so how much more a man.
It's a wonderful thing for a woman to work no doubt but it becomes annoying for men when their wives leave home early enough without a breakfast for them or come late to the extent that they are served refrigerated dinner, all things be equal the woman should at least have time to be with her children and look out for husband's welfare no matter the job the woman is doing.
It's of no doubt that most men loves it for their wives to work independently than working in a firm, industry or company with no flexible time and so we see men that are well to do open supermarkets, shopping malls, stores and other sole proprietorship businesses for their wives so that they can determine what to do and how to do the work with their own discretion and not under any boss who ask them around doing one thing or the other but what we find out was that our young ladies shy away from this all in the name of I don't want to be a full house wife with my qualification, maybe because they are afraid the husband might abuse them or any other reason they have for such thoughts.
In the real sense, been a wife means you agreed with all responsibilities that accompanies it and of course been an house wife is a bulk part of the marriage vows you agreed to on your wedding day, the truth be told, woman is a help meet for man and not help mate, the former implies that the work is actually meant for men to do even to the cooking of food at home, a woman is just there to give him a helping hand on his work and the way our society measures out this help is that women should help the man with his house chores and leave him to face the outside chores out there, but if taken on the note of help mate, that's when it becomes a 50-50 division of labour between wife and husband, so when the man pays the house rent the woman automatically buys the foodstuffs but as good as it is, it is not necessarily right; a man should provide for the needs of his households and not the other way round.
My dear ladies, it's a good thing for you to work especially in a type of society we find ourselves where even the work of three persons is not sufficient to cater for the need of a single person but yet, your work should not deny your family your time, concentration, care and presence, the more time you spend with your family the easier for your bond to stay strong, though men grumbles when there wives are work addict but don't talk about it sometimes because of what is at stake especially when they don't have a better option to proffer.
So if you're planning to be a career woman because you believed the lie that men love it for a woman to be one, I suggest you talk to your man about it and agree on the terms as this misconception is one of the reasons divorce is spontaneous in our society. You will agree with me actors/actresses whose wives/husbands are also in the profession do well in marriage when compared with those that only one partner is into the profession when the other is doing some other jobs.
The final article on this topic is under way.
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