As a man;
1. Sacrifice Your time.
Hello guys, the first basic need of Evey lady is attention, and that will require you as a man to dedicate your time to give her the attention she craves for. No matter how busy you are, you must be ready to separate a good ample of time to any lady you claim to love. Every lady wants a man who will call her every morning & night, who will not forget her birthday date & better still a guy who will call to wish a happy dating anniversary.
2. Sacrifice Your Money
I have always wondered why guys complain "ladies like money". Look here man, that lady you want to propose to it's money that makes her look good to suit your taste. So if you can't afford to spend on her, it's better to keep your love to yourself. Yes, money is not everything but a guys isn't supposed to be stingy at all not to talk of who he claims to love. Ladies are brought up with the mentality of receiving gift & it's no new thing. I'm not saying you should break bank to spend on any lady but you should be able to lavish on any lady you love with anything you have on you.
3. Do you still have feelings for an ex?
If you still have feelings for your ex, don't go out and propose to any lady without first settling your attachment with your ex. No matter how much you try to hide it, once there's still a part of you attached to your ex, you are not qualified to proclaim love to another lady. It's quite annoying calling your ex name for your new girl, or you mismatch their birthday. It will be so bad for you expecting a kind of behaviour you enjoyed with your ex in a new relationship, until you are ready to let go of everything that has to do with your ex, forget it even that lady you want to clinch with, you'll soon loose her also because she'll never be comfortable with you. Some guys are so bad to the extent of comparing their ex with the lady are in with now, oga if you still have feelings for your ex, go work it out with her.
4. What do you plan to achieve in the relationship?
The reason why you find it comfortable to move from one lady to another thinking you're enjoying is because you are not defined about what you intend to achieve with those ladies. You think you're enjoying counting 10-15 exes in a year, the fact remains if you want to date 10ladies in a week, they are so numerous in number that you'll find them but that's your lifespan reducing bit by bit, should I hint there's no lady you'll date that it won't cost you something or the other, if you count the number of ladies you've break up with, I guess you should be able to trace the reason some of your predicament that yourself you don't know the reason why you're in such condition. Look, if you offends a lady & she cursed you with her tears, it will take the grace of God on your life to scape through, don't worry you're doing fine now, only time will tell. Dear guys, it's not every lady you see that caught fancy you date, simply admire her beauty, take her number & be a friend of her with no strings attached. Yes, if you like someone, walk up to her & tell her don't lie by saying you love her. Another reason why guys jump from one lady to another is because they can't keep that thing between their legs in check, if you're that type I will advice you to seek for help because you need to be delivered, but then if it's a must for you to do, go to the prostitutes now. Why must you see a lady & the first thing that comes to your mind is to sleep with her, I will tell you point blank, you're sick & mad. So if you know you didn't have a future plan with that lady, don't go near at all. Your destiny is at risk.
5. Are you ready to fall in love.
This is so much important especially for newbies who have never been in any relationship before, you see falling in love is a great task & it takes a lot of muscles to love affectionately than to hate. Are you ready to couple love life with the activities you have at hand? Are you ready to be committed to that lady you want to talk to? Will you be comfortable with her around you? Can you defend her & be proud of her? Those are some of the many questions you need to ask yourself.
As a lady before you say yes.
1. Does he a have purpose.
Look ladies, that thing called PURPOSE is worth more than any amount of money you can think of, look you'll enjoy a normal guy who is happy with what he's doing because he finds fulfilment in it rather than a rich guy who is unhappy about what he's doing. I'm sure by now you should know that money is good when coupled with joy but money without happiness is as bitter as drinking soda drinks which is sweet in your mouth but damaging to your body system. Do I need to tell you that the rich also cries? If you leave a guy with vision and hook up with one with money, you'll end up watching the guy with vision on a television bought with the money of the rich guy, shikena!!! So before you say yes I do to any guy, you want to carefully ask him about his plans for the future, his ambition, his view about life generally, even his lifestyle does it suit your state? Can you live with such guy? Don't try to manage any guy for the time been or ever think you can change him to your taste, that might be possible but I'm sure you don't have enough time for that because even been satisfied with his lifestyle & future plan and all those doesn't mean you still will not have differences to work on. So watch out carefully, look it's true that love is blind but that idiom is best interpreted for married couples, a guy is smoking, you know about & you're claiming love,,,,,I pity you ooo.
2. . IS HE TRUE TO YOU?
Look ladies, that thing called PURPOSE is worth more than any amount of money you can think of, look you'll enjoy a normal guy who is happy with what he's doing because he finds fulfilment in it rather than a rich guy who is unhappy about what he's doing. I'm sure by now you should know that money is good when coupled with joy but money without happiness is as bitter as drinking soda drinks which is sweet in your mouth but damaging to your body system. Do I need to tell you that the rich also cries? If you leave a guy with vision and hook up with one with money, you'll end up watching the guy with vision on a television bought with the money of the rich guy, shikena!!! So before you say yes I do to any guy, you want to carefully ask him about his plans for the future, his ambition, his view about life generally, even his lifestyle does it suit your state? Can you live with such guy? Don't try to manage any guy for the time been or ever think you can change him to your taste, that might be possible but I'm sure you don't have enough time for that because even been satisfied with his lifestyle & future plan and all those doesn't mean you still will not have differences to work on. So watch out carefully, look it's true that love is blind but that idiom is best interpreted for married couples, a guy is smoking, you know about & you're claiming love,,,,,I pity you ooo.
As a lady, you have to have mechanism of finding out if a guy is really in love with you in the real sense of it or just playing out on you. You can do that through different means you feel is healthy enough to test his genuinity, readiness, & sincerity. Even if you have feelings for him, don't jump at his request, keep him at Bay, visit him without prior notice, find out about his friends (those are the board of directors of your relationship), what opinions & philosophies do they have. Don't be discouraged to intensify your efforts to do a background search about his past relationships if any, why did he break up with his previous lady
3. YOUR FEELINGS FOR HIM
Now you've to analyze yourself & check if on the basis of what you know about him, you have a positive feelings toward him, it is not advisable you enter a relationship with mere likeness, no you'll be wrong to do that!!! There should be this tingling tingling effect on you anytime he comes around or you hear about him or his thoughts came to your mind. You see there's a wiring for likeness which is different from that of affectionate love, it is possible to like everybody but to love you must have a special thing that pricks you about that particular guy before you agree to him.
Do you watch Indian movies? Do you notice there's always a special effects from the lady when she's responding to a guy's love " sometimes her hair get blown out or you see the ear moving uncontrollable", yeah that's movie effects but if you've ever love someone before you'll notice that there's this special feelings you have whenever the person is around you.
Don't be fooled to think you'll develop the feelings when you accept him, genuinely you must have that feeling before you say yes, it will only grow as time goes by.
4. Can you respect him?
Hmm!!! Ladies, if there's anything that can keep you to remain beautiful in the face of any guy is to respect for who he is. If you want to win any man, respect him & come share testimony with me.
The same way money is not everything for you ladies but attention & care the same way food is not everything to a man; he only need you to respect him. Men are born to lead & are Leaders, you will notice that even there's a way your parents will stylishly tell you to respect your own junior brother simply because he's a potential leader.
Look here, if you can't respect a guy for any reason you have that I don't care to know about, then forget it don't even say yes. Respect is the key dosage that suits well to every guy, irrespective of his age, work, tribe, achievement or a ACADEMIC status, you must be ready to respect.
Don't you wonder why in most cases, the guy is always of age more than the lady, it simply to command respect, I even have a lady who always tell me she can't get along with any guys.
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