People SHOW Us Who They Are

Have you ever been in a relationship that is unsatisfying, where you are constantly trying to get the person to see or do things your way?


I think for most of us, the answer to this question is "yes"! At some point we have all been in a relationship where we kept hoping the other person would change. Where we kept hoping they would see it our way. Where we kept hoping they would do things different and we could be happy.

And yet, time and time again, the result ends up the same. There is arguing and conflict, disappointment and discontent. Even if the person changes for a short period of time, eventually they return to their own ways. For those of us who are lucky, this is a thing of the past. Maybe something we were involved in when we were younger, but then we grew and realized this pattern is unhealthy, and now we no longer try to change others.

But for others of us, maybe this pattern continues. If you find yourself continuously in relationships that are dissatisfying, if you constantly hope the other person will change, if you keep giving that person "one more chance", there may be a problem.

Here's the problem with this, people DON'T REALLY CHANGE! Can we become better versions of ourselves, ABSOLUTELY! But only if we want to.

The Crux of the matter is this: never be tied into a relationship because you have a vague idea he/she is good and all of that, and then you not feeling comfortable in the relationship stay glued waiting for a magic wand to turn things for better.

© EMMANUELA D'A MUSE